Guest post written by Giuliana De Polo.
I know this is a tricky topic to talk about. I know there are very different and strong opinions about it. I don’t want to disrespect anyone’s beliefs by writing this article. It’s just my PERSONAL opinion and anyone is free to disagree with me.
So, the topic I’m going to write about is: gay marriage and adoption.
Argentina is one of the 11 countries in the world that allows same-sex marriage. The legal recognition was in 2010, not without a lot of controversy.
In the present France is debating if legalize or not gay-marriage and adoption.
Society is divided. People against it claim that it’s not natural; that a proper family needs a mother and a father; that a child of a homosexual couple would be homosexual too and would suffer from physical, social and mental abuses…And it goes on.
There is a huge variety of studies, some of them telling it’s not damaging for the children, some of them telling it is.
However, I want to ask you: love is love right? Homosexuality is not considered a disease. You can search the scientific info online. We are all humans. Why a man who loves another man cannot marry him? What is the damage for the society? Ok, it’s not the typical structure of a family. Neither single parents, or divorced couples, or kids raised by their grandparents.
When we talk about adoption, what it has to be evaluated is the mental health and stability of the family, to assure a good environment for the child. If a lesbian couple can provide this, why deny it? There are too many orphan children in the world, waiting for a family to love them.
Sexual orientation it’s not a choice. It is a combination of genetic, hormonal, and environmental influences, with biological factors involving a complex interplay of genetic factors and the early uterine environment (Royal College of Psychiatrists). That means that if a kid is raised by a homosexual couple, he can be either heterosexual or homosexual. It is not determinate by his parents.
We have been told for a long time that being homosexual was wrong, a crime, an abnormality. I don’t think it is. I don’t see anything wrong on loving someone and have the desire of having a family. I don’t see anything criminal on having a partner to spend your life with and taking care of a child. I don’t think it’s an abnormality to LOVE someone, no matter if you’re gay or straight.
Because love is love, and it can’t be bad.